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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries. - Competition on Worries.
- The guests who'll join us today... - What are you doing?
- are very charming people. - They're old guys.
Please welcome Lee Sang Min and Sung Dae Hyun!
(Lee Sang Min, Sung Dae Hyun)
Park Sang Hee!
Jung Dong Ha.
Wow, Sang Min.
I didn't think I would see you on KBS.
- Today's a meaningful day. - That's right.
- How long has it been? - Yes, how long?
Hasn't it been seven years?
The last time I was here was in July 2009.
You chose Hello out of all the other programmes on KBS.
I wanted to start off by saying my greetings to everybody...
- and this programme was perfect. - That's right.
As a member of Roo'Ra, you're the first one to be back.
That's right.
- Congratulations. - Congratulations and welcome.
What a leader.
He's their leader.
I enjoy this programme. I watch it at home.
I counsel people on my own.
- On your own? - Yes, while I watch TV.
I say things like, "You shouldn't do that."
I heard you counsel your fans, too.
- For his fans? - Yes.
My fans have been with me for a long time.
- I made my debut in 1994. - That's right.
Recently, I counselled one of my fans.
She's married...
and her mother was a loan guarantor but got defaulted.
So her husband had to pay off the debt.
- In that process, - Was he rude?
He became rude to his mother-in-law.
I knew it was best to discuss the issue with the husband...
and not my fan.
So I got her husband's number.
- Really? - Yes.
- That's incredible. - I got his number and called him.
I told him that the most important thing in his life is family...
and not money.
- He might get ill all of a sudden. - You're right.
He would need his family then to help him out.
I'm sorry to interrupt but can you shorten it a bit?
I can't make this any shorter. I'm sorry.
It's your first time on our show,
- so you have a lot to talk about. - It's 7 years' worth of talking.
Three of them are waiting.
They've only said hello and nothing else.
If you're going to do seven years' worth of talking, we can come back.
There's five minutes of the story left...
- but I'll shorten it. - Please do.
So I told him that...
- family comes before money. - Right.
You can ask me for any favour and I'll do it for you if I can.
Please treat your wife and mother-in-law properly.
I told him...
to eat out with his wife and mother-in-law that week.
Excuse me, but my mum is watching this show to see me talk.
- She wants to see me. - It's almost over.
She might change the channel.
They had dinner together and it worked out in the end.
- Oh. - Good job.
(Sang Min lets everything out.)
(It's finally over.)
I've been hosting this show for five years and...
- that was the longest introduction. - I agree.
(We expect a lot from you.)
Last week, "Let's Break Up"...
- won for the third time. - That was three wins.
We'll see if they'll be able to achieve their fourth win today.
- We will give the winner... - A 1,000 dollars gift certificate.
We have three worries for today. Please show us the keywords.
("I'm a Maid", "Get Away from Me", "Please Calm Down")
This story is about a woman who lived 10 years of her life...
in misery. This is her earnest plea.
Hello.
I'm a working mum who's living a nightmare.
I don't think there's anybody like me in this day and age.
I am...
a maid.
My husband watches TV lying down while I serve him food. He says,
"Water!" "Fruits!" "Toothbrush!"
"I've been working all day and I'm exhausted. Can you help me out?"
"No!"
"If I help you once, you'll expect me to do it again."
(You'll get used to it.)
This is coming from my husband. Could you believe it?
- He treats me like a nobody. - Why is he like that?
"I can't communicate with you."
"You shouldn't even think."
"Only do what I say, all right?"
Sang Hee, don't get upset.
I can't help it.
- You turned red. - Yes.
When I wasn't feeling well and was hospitalised for it,
he called so I said, "Honey."
"Did you call me because you were worried? What's the matter?"
"I'm going out to have a drink with my friend."
"Can you go home and look after the kids?"
- She was in the hospital. - Wow.
I had to go home and look after my kids.
He doesn't care about me at all.
He makes me feel inferior. What should I do?
(Should I keep living like this?)
She can't even talk to him because he's condescending.
Let's meet and hear her out.
- Please come out. - Come on out.
(Who is the woman that endured 10 years with her dominant husband?)
Hello.
(Shin Sung Ran)
(She's here to expose the truth.)
Welcome.
From what I read,
there was one part I could not wrap my head around.
He won't help you...
because he's afraid you'll get used to it.
Did he really say that?
Yes, he did. My husband thinks women have to be submissive to men.
Does he think men are on top and women are on the bottom?
Yes. Once my husband comes back from work,
- he'll be watching TV. - Right.
- I'll make food for him then. - Okay.
Once I'm done, I'll put the food on the table and bring it to him.
- In front of the TV? - Yes.
- I'll bring it to him... - He's the king.
then my husband goes,
- "Water!" - When he's done eating?
So I bring him water.
Does your husband tie up a topknot or wear hanbok?
- Does he wear a traditional hat? - No.
You never know.
What happens after he drinks water?
After that, let's say it's time for bed.
He goes, "Toothbrush."
I say, "You should bring it yourself."
Then he goes, "I'm helping you to lose weight. Bring it."
- He's doing it for you? - "You have to move to lose weight."
But I work, too.
- You have to sleep. - I need to rest...
so I'll be lying down.
And he goes, "Legs and back."
- He wants you to massage him? - Yes.
(That's him telling her to massage him.)
You're dealing with all sort of problems.
I have to get up and massage him.
Was it like that from the beginning?
I met him when I was 20.
We dated while we were attending the same university.
- However, - You were in the same university.
Yes, but at that time...
I was totally into him. I was only 20.
- He was manly? - Yes, that's what I fell for.
- He used to take the lead. - I think so.
Are there any other incidents that upset you?
- There are many. My husband... - There's more?
would say, "Clean the fridge today. Clean the top rack."
- Does he make you do that? - Yes.
- So are you saying... - "Clean the room."
- Does he assign tasks each day? - That's right.
Masculine men tend to be paternalistic...
but they don't bother with every detail.
They usually leave the housework to the wife.
- That's usually the case. - You're right.
- But this man has both sides. - He does.
He's both masculine and meticulous.
- When it comes to eating, - There must be more.
I don't eat at the same table with him.
- Why? - Why?
- What's this about? - Why?
Is he the emperor or something? Why?
No, that's not why. I choose not to.
- You chose not to? - Yes.
- You prefer not to? - You startled me.
Even if we eat together,
I have to get up once he asks for water.
- So then... - You're avoiding him.
When my husband eats, I stand by the kitchen.
- Since he'll ask you to get stuff. - Why don't you...
put the water on the table in the first place?
- You can also put... - Gosh.
water, fruits, toothbrush and the rest of it.
- Put all of them on the table. - You're right!
That sounds good!
(It'll be one stop service system.)
- You don't eat with him. - He makes you do this everyday.
I don't eat with him but once my husband and kids finish eating,
I would try to eat on my own.
My husband would say, "Are you eating again?"
I used to hear that a lot.
But you were eating for the first time.
Yes, but he thought that I was eating again.
I started washing dishes after that.
- I ate while I was doing it. - You pretended to be doing dishes?
- Yes. I ate while I was standing. - You should eat while sitting.
- I eat a few mouthfuls like that. - Why would he do that to his wife?
Why won't you do something when you hear these things?
I'm scared.
- What? - You're scared of him?
My husband is hot tempered. He's like fire.
What does he do, then?
Does he throw things or get angry?
When we are walking on the street and get into an argument,
he'll start yelling even if there are people watching.
- Really? - In front of people?
- In a public place? - Yes, while we're on the street.
I want to see who the husband is.
Let's meet the husband. Let's see who he is.
Nice to meet you. Hello.
Hello.
Just by looking at you, you don't seem like that kind of person.
- You look nice. - Your wife endured for 10 years.
Do you understand what your wife is concerned about?
Husband is the king.
- The husband is what? - The king.
- The king? - But the problem is...
- I'm the king. - What about your wife?
- She's the queen. - What is she?
What is she if she's not the queen?
She's my children's mum.
She's just their mum.
Don't you do any housework because you're the king?
- I'm tired and lazy. - You could have helped.
If I keep helping her, she'll get used to it.
I have to teach her from the outset.
You're saying that if you keep helping her, it'll become a habit.
Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Who taught you to do that?
I'm just doing what I feel is right.
But your wife works, too. She must be tired.
Isn't it only right for you to share the load?
I don't ask her to do much.
If I tell her to vacuum, she'll do that...
and wipe the floor. That's all.
If it's that simple, you can do it.
Why do you get tired?
I work that's why I get tired.
- Your wife works, too. - What about your wife?
She does but not too much.
What would you feel...
if your daughter ended up living like your wife?
I'll feel bad for her.
- Sorry? - You'll feel bad for her...
- but you can't do anything? - Are you saying...
it's okay since she's a woman?
No. She should meet a good husband.
- Does that mean... - Your wife met the wrong guy!
- She met the wrong guy. - Wait.
- She met the wrong person. - What?
- I mean... - What if...
you spoke to her nicely? She says she'll feel better that way.
I used to be nice but I can't keep doing it.
I've been telling her to keep an account book for 10 years now...
but she didn't. She only wrote it a few times.
- An account book? - Yes.
- I tried it but... - And then?
- he'll check them. - Really?
Yes. "This is not how you keep an account book."
"Haven't you seen other women do it?"
He compares me to other women.
- He points out your mistakes. - I know...
I'll get scolded by him even if I write it, so I just don't.
Since you compare her to others, it means you've seen another book.
- No, I mean... - That's true!
Whose account book have you seen?
No, you can see it on the internet.
- On the internet? - You can find it.
What kind of king goes on the internet?
I have to if I want to compare them. She's so bad, though.
You can keep the account book.
I don't do that sort of stuff.
Why not?
- Why won't you do it? - That's counted as housework.
(Her patience grows each day.)
Was there another time you felt upset?
- I was walking with my husband. - Okay.
We saw a friend of mine.
She also has two kids.
But she's skinny and health conscious.
On the other hand, my husband thinks I'm fat and unhealthy.
That's how he saw me so he said,
"Hey, didn't she have two kids like you?"
"But she's skinny. She must take care of herself."
"She had two kids like you but why are you in this mess?"
Do you think she's fat?
I gave her an earful so she's chubby now.
- She's not fat but just chubby. - Does she have to get skinnier?
Of course. She has to get skinnier and look after herself.
What about you? You're fat, too.
(Don't you look at yourself in the mirror?)
You're kind of fat.
She always gets me everything.
- That's why I gain weight. - What's he saying?
- What did you say? - Look.
You're not looking after yourself.
Once I start going on a diet, I'll lose weight right away.
- You should. - I know I should.
You're the fattest out of all these people.
Anyway at this point,
- let's hear from their friends. - I'm shocked.
Nice to meet you. Hello.
Hello.
Nice to meet you.
Are you the person that the husband compared her to?
Yes. One time I heard him say, "She had two kids, too."
"She's skinny but why are you like this?"
I was mortified so I said, "Stop it. Sung Ran is cute."
Then, he's like "How's she cute?"
"She's fat like a pig."
- "She's a pig, not a human." - She's not fat at all.
- I felt mortified hearing that. - She's beautiful.
I don't go over a lot because she's worried he'll say something.
I was at her place once and the kids wanted jajangmyeon.
- Jajangmyeon? - Yes.
We had jajangmyeon but Sung Ran got "antsy".
She was worried her husband would see it so she cleaned it up.
Once her husband comes home, he'll ask what she ate...
and apparently, he even smells the kitchen table.
- Oh, dear. - Would he smell it?
- Do you... - I'm going nuts.
Do you work?
- I don't work anymore. - How did you lose weight?
- I... - Isn't that a personal question?
That's not the point of the story.
I wanted to ask her this.
Does she have time for herself or does she work as well?
Does your husband help out at home?
He's very helpful...
and when I used to come home from work and ask him to help me,
he did everything for me.
- I was right. - Yes.
Is that true?
Would you smell the table to check if she had jajangmyeon?
Yes. I do that from time to time.
- Why? - At least, he's being honest.
She'll gain weight if she eats it.
She became chubby...
and she'll gain more weight. That's why.
Do you want your wife to be bony?
It'd be nice if she's skinny so other people could see it.
But aside from that, her friend said that she has time for herself.
Her husband helps out at home.
If your wife asked you to help her, could you help her out?
Could you do that for her?
No, the husband is the king...
- so I cannot. - You're not the king.
You're not the king.
Can I pinch him in the thigh and come back?
You know...
I want to ask your friend. You're here today.
Do you have something to say to your friend's husband?
Her husband mistreats her...
but I can see that she'd like to be loved.
- Of course. - That's natural.
I wanted to take this opportunity to ask if he married her...
- because he loved her. - You should ask him.
- You should ask. - I'm afraid.
- Just ask him. - It's okay.
Hey.
Did you marry Sung Ran because you loved her?
(Did you marry her because you loved her?)
I loved her when we were going out.
We're married so now we're family.
- You don't love her anymore? - We're family now.
If you married another woman, would you have treated her the same?
If she was skinny, it would have been different.
Excuse me. Hello?
I'm sorry for asking but are you being serious?
Or do you need 1,000 dollars?
If that's the case, we'll chip in and give you the money.
- Be good to her. - Tell us the truth.
- You want to know if it's true. - Yes. I just can't understand.
Are you being serious or are you playing game?
I don't think she'll win even once.
Pardon?
- Excuse me. Let me ask you this. - That's not the point.
Why are you the king?
- The husband in the family... - The husband is the king?
- Yes. - So, are all husbands the king?
- Yes, other people... - Do you think other husbands...
order their wives around like you?
Would you like to stay in my house for a few days?
- Would you? - I...
Can you pass the microphone to the current winner?
Sir, don't get angry.
- Sir. - He's not the type to get mad.
His wife is busy being his son's dance partner...
so he looks after the house while working at the same time.
- He also drives for them. - Let's hear from you.
(He has mixed feelings about this.)
Sir, you are the king. What's wrong?
- Sir. - You're the king.
Sir, what are your thoughts after hearing their story?
I feel uncomfortable hearing their story.
I would like to ask him this.
He said he loves his children...
but if you read the book called, "Life Expert",
it says that if you want your children to be happy,
the parents should be happy in the first place.
How many books have you read?
You're a human dictionary.
Sir, do you read books while waiting for your wife and son...
to finish dancing?
What's more frightening is that your kids are watching you...
and they might develop biased views towards women.
Dae Hyun is worried for her. She's more worried than anyone.
- That's what I'm saying. - What's your biggest concern?
My kids are 8 and 10.
He tries to discipline me in front of the kids, too.
- He doesn't treat you properly. - Yes, and the kids copy him.
- That's the biggest problem. - So for instance,
if you scold the kids, do they talk back to you?
They'll say, "I'm going to tell Dad."
"Dad disciplines you so why are you disciplining us?"
- Oh, dear. - That's very wrong.
He would say, "You're the same as a 10-year-old."
- "You're the same as our daughter." - He says that to you?
Things he says are very insulting and condescending.
If you compare this to a spring, if you keep pressing it down,
it will eventually spring back up.
So if you continue to disregard your wife's feelings,
I think it's obvious what will happen.
There's a high chance she'll run away or ask for divorce.
What would you do then?
If she wants to run away from home,
I want her to leave the kids with me.
(Don't take the kids.)
Well... If she does run away,
I'll be uncomfortable.
Are you telling her not to leave because it's uncomfortable for you?
No.
I'd have to cook, take care of the kids and do laundry.
Right now, your wife has had enough. I'm not sure but...
when she says she'll try to endure it for 20 or 30 years,
I think she's only waiting for you to get old and immobile...
so she can beat you up.
(She'll kill you then.)
That's what I think.
You should get ready to be beaten up.
Ma'am.
I know you nodded unconsciously, but you should be careful.
(You should be discreet.)
- She unconsciously... - You should be nice all the time.
Anyway, we'll try to talk with their kids.
Hello.
Did you talk back to your mum saying that she has no right to scold you?
- Daughter? - Who said that?
- Was it the daughter or the son? - You can speak.
- Was it both of you? - Don't worry, he's not a scary man.
(Yeong Ja is not a scary man.)
Go ahead. Have you ever said it?
- Yes. - Why?
She's always being scolded by Dad.
Whenever he asks her how she'll do next time,
she apologises and says she'll be good.
(This is an abnormal conversation.)
Did the son also say that?
- Yes. I've said that, too. - Why?
Because Dad is stronger than Mum.
Do you think it's okay to do anything...
to weaker people if you're strong?
- No. - No, right?
How did you feel...
when you saw your parents fight?
I was sad.
What do you want to see from your parents instead?
I want them to get along.
- They want them to get along. - As a couple.
What do you think about this?
Well, if she can behave,
I wouldn't scold her in front of the kids.
- Don't you think you're wrong? - That's not the point.
As you can see, a lot of people think...
that there is something wrong with what you're doing.
We can relate to your wife and agree that she must be sad.
Can you understand where we're coming from?
Or is it impossible for you to understand it at all?
Be honest.
You've changed your thoughts a bit after coming here, right?
- I'm not sure about that yet. - You're not sure?
Well...
You just told us earlier that you don't know...
what you did wrong and that you're happy.
You also said that it's your wife's job to do all the housework.
Who should be managing the housekeeping book?
- Your wife? - My wife.
- Who should take care of the kids? - My wife.
- Who should cook? - My wife should.
- Then who should be earning money? - Me.
Right now, your wife has a job and works at home, too.
Why is she earning money?
That's your job, right?
- It's something I have to do, - Yes.
but she should still earn a little.
That's your job, though.
It should be the father's job to be the breadwinner.
- Yes. - She's helping you right now...
because it's hard to get by with the money you earn.
The kids need to get tutored and it's hard.
You have to buy water and everything, right?
- Yes. - Personally, you want to earn...
enough alone. But you have no choice but to get her help, right?
- That's right. - Right?
Then what should you do? She has a job, right?
- Yes, she does. - You need to acknowledge her.
Then when she comes home...
She's not even asking you to help her out.
We're saying you should do your own chores.
You should wash yourself, feed yourself,
and put things back. She didn't ask for much.
She's working because you're having a hard time.
And when she comes home, she's doing all the housework, too.
- That's not fair, right? - No.
- This is what we're talking about. - I see.
Do you understand now?
(Do you get it?)
(Yeong Ja, you read our minds.)
Yes.
(Is it that hard?)
I want to know which incident upset you the most...
- in the last 10 years. - What made you upset?
- How can there be something worse? - Just listening to it...
- is upsetting. - Can there be more?
What's the most upsetting incident?
Even if it's a pet, you would get worried...
and take them to the vet if they're sick.
There was a time I felt like I was even worth less than a pet.
I started to get stomach pains at 9pm.
You should go to the emergency room.
- I endured it until 5am. - Why?
To go to the hospital when it opens. It's too expensive otherwise.
He would nag at me if I went.
What did you expect him to say to you?
"Why are you sick at night and wasting our money?"
I knew he would say that.
It hurt so bad I ended up going to the emergency.
They told me my hepatitis level is too high.
- Hepatitis? - Yes. Hepatitis A.
- Hepatitis A... - That hurts a lot.
They told me I should be hospitalised right away.
Instead of worrying about me he said,
"Why do you always get sick at night?"
(Why do you always get sick at night?)
No, no.
- This is KBS. - Sit down.
- It was hard to come on KBS. - It's been nine years.
- No, no. - If you fight with him,
- you'll lose. - Exactly.
(You'll lose.)
That's what he said. I was breastfeeding then.
- When you got sick? - Yes, the baby was four months old.
When you're breastfeeding, it swells up.
- You have to squeeze it out. - Yes, you should.
I didn't have any equipment at the hospital, so I went...
to the wash room with the IV stuck on me.
I squeezed it out there. When I think about that time,
- I feel miserable. - Of course you would be sad.
- I was breastfeeding and all. - Hold on.
When I listen to her stories, they sound so horrible.
How can you say that? Weren't you worried?
I was worried.
The thing is, she's never sick during the day.
She's always sick at night.
- How do you choose the time? - You can't control sickness.
It's the same with the kids. They always get sick at night.
- How is that her fault? - Wait.
Haven't you been sick at night before?
- I have a few times. - Why did you get sick at night?
Why did you get sick at night?
You should have gotten sick during the day.
I just got sick at night.
I'm asking you why.
- In my opinion, - I don't think he's getting it.
I don't think he has any bad intentions.
No.
He agrees but it's hard...
- for him to admit to it. - I think it hurts his pride.
It feels like you lost if you admit it, right?
Can't you admit to it?
Everyone seems to relate to my wife and not me.
That must mean I'm wrong,
- but it's hurting my pride. - That's it.
- He knows. - It would be wrong not to know.
It feels like you'll lose if you admit, right?
- Yes. - That's the issue, right?
- I can't lose. - It's cool to admit to it.
Don't think of it as losing.
If you admit it, you'll move her heart and she'll be nicer.
Who would ever think to win against their wives?
I think you're still a 10-year-old.
It's not about winning or losing at home.
Do other men in here think that it's cool to win over their wives?
- Do you want to live like him? - There aren't other men like him.
What do you think? Answer me.
Who in the right mind would answer that question?
- We just don't act like him. - No.
Do you have any last words to say?
(It's the wife's last words.)
I just want to live happily,
but I seem to be living anxiously all the time.
(It's so uncomfortable for me.)
I just want to be a mum in front of the kids...
and a wife in front of you.
I want you to treat me right so the kids can understand that.
It's so simple.
(She deserves it.)
Now, is it a worry or not?
What do I do with this?
- Is it a worry? - I think it's a worry.
I'll try to make it simple for you.
Roo Ra was the best in 1995.
- No. Do you think so? - We were.
- R.ef was the best. - You're wrong.
During "The Angel Who Lost Wings"...
- You were popular in 1996. - No, it was 1995.
We were the best in 1995.
Why did you invite these two together?
Today, you're with three kings.
I was earning a lot in 1995.
I ordered my staff around just like you.
- Of course. - I was a king.
Now in 2016,
I have the highest debt out of everyone here.
(I'm in a huge debt.)
You're a king.
Am I a king in that sense?
- Yes. - No king lasts forever.
- No. - Right.
You shouldn't be careless to the people around you.
Especially your family.
- This is a worry. - Dae Hyun.
- I think it's a worry, too. - Is it a worry?
- Sang Hee. - Yes.
I also agree that it's a worry.
However, I saw some hope.
I think it was a good thing the wife chose to come here.
She was wise...
in how she asked for help with her problems.
I think the conversation has to continue.
- Dong Ha. - I think it's a worry as well.
If you feel that her story is a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
(You can upload your worries on our homepage.)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- That's it. - Stop.
- A lot of people voted. - Wow.
The kids were like,
"Dad, how do I press this?"
They asked their dad and also their aunt.
How many votes do you think you received?
There is a total of 200 people.
I think 100 at the most.
- Excuse me. - Yes?
- You called yourself a king, right? - Yes.
It seems like you're more of a tyrant.
Even under such conditions, she still loves you.
She mentioned that she wants to be loved.
I trust that you love her, too.
Could you tell her that you love her?
- Yes. - Please.
- Admit to it. - Yes.
- Sung Ran. - That's good.
I won't yell in front of the kids again.
Let's live happily together.
- Tell her. - I love you.
(I love you.)
You're probably really mortified right now, but...
- You did well. - You were amazing.
- This is the coolest. - Don't think that way.
I'm not sure how many votes they got.
Our previous winner had 181 votes.
Please show us...
- what "I'm a Maid" got. - I think they might win.
"Let's Break Up" was too strong.
- 190? Is it 190? - 180?
If they get 190, they'll win.
- That's hard to do. - Maybe it's 170.
- Is it 190? - Even still...
It's only one vote difference.
They got 180 votes.
- It's just a single vote. - Who was it?
Which two people didn't vote?
The kids didn't vote.
Didn't you vote?
All right, good job.
(Eliminated and survived)
Some of you may get very jealous,
and some of you may agree...
that it must be really hard for the person.
Hello, I've been married for seven years...
and I'm a man in my 40s.
My wife is nice, cute and is even a good cook.
On top of that, she's 11 years younger than I am.
He hit the jackpot.
Why do you like young women much?
"Honey, how come you're so handsome?"
"You look like Ahn Jung Hwan,"
"and you have Richard Gere's charisma."
"How can I not fall for you?"
"I don't want to be apart from you even for a minute."
- They should be apart. - People around us...
- say that I'm lucky... - I'm jealous.
and are jealous of me. But should they be?
"Honey, what are you doing? Where are you?"
"Did you get to work? I miss you."
"Honey, don't you miss me? What are you doing? Did you eat?"
"Why didn't you call?"
- She's obsessed. - "Don't you love me anymore?"
"Don't you miss me?"
"How can you call me every 30 minutes? I have to work."
- "Hold on." - 30 minutes?
"Are you really working?"
"Let's do a video call instead."
She's suspicious of him.
Even when I'm trying to meet with some friends,
"Where are you? What? Friends? No."
"Girls will try to seduce a handsome man like you."
"No, you have to take me to see your friends."
(He's forced to take her.)
Even during company dinners...
"Honey, we have a company dinner."
"Don't wait up and go to bed."
"How did you come here?"
Did she really come?
"Are you crazy? Do you know what time it is?"
"It's already 9pm!"
- 9pm? - 9pm?
(They're speechless.)
It's not 3am?
Isn't it in the morning?
No, he said 9pm.
"A handsome man like you..."
"shouldn't attend company dinners."
- "Let's go home right now. Come." - Is that his curfew?
I'm 45 years old,
but I have no friends to call.
- I can't go to company dinner. - That's crazy.
Honey, please give me some freedom.
(Please set me free!)
- There was a case like this before. - Yes.
- We were unexpectedly surprised. - Is that so?
(We were surprised.)
We couldn't understand why the wife would do that.
The wife says that she can't let him be alone...
because she fears other women would approach him.
I hope we can agree.
Let's invite him in.
Please come on out.
(Who is the man that has a obsessive wife?)
(Where is Ahn Jung Hwan?)
(He looks very mediocre.)
(Kim Ki Young)
I knew it.
(I was right.)
Why is she being obsessive?
It was like this last time.
To be honest, can you understand why she's anxious?
I don't understand it at all.
Why is she anxious?
We don't understand either.
(I'm sorry, but we don't get it.)
None of us can understand.
How can we proceed with the show?
I'm sorry but, can I press the button now?
- It's not a worry. - It's not a worry.
My wife is 11 years younger than I am.
I should be the one that's worried.
- But she's... - That's true.
Was it like this when you were dating?
Or did it change after a few years after marriage?
I never dated until I was 36.
- Until you were 36? - I never dated before.
- That's the real worry. - Now...
- It must've been back then. - Yes.
After meeting my wife, we got married...
- in four months. - Right.
When we were dating, I didn't mind the calls.
- You enjoyed it. - That's right.
I thought it was because she loved me so much.
It's been seven years already, but she still calls me too often.
How often is too often for you?
She calls me about 20 to 30 times in a day.
If she requests for a video call, I'll pull over to pick up.
She would ask me if I'm really working.
She also asks me to turn the camera around.
Since she calls me often, I sometimes get...
complaints from our customers.
- It's obstructing his work. - I'm often late.
If I don't pick up, she'd call my brother...
and ask if I'm really working.
You must be really stifling to cough like that.
If my brother doesn't answer her call,
she calls my office.
I feel like I'm under surveillance all day long.
- It's a really hard job. - Of course.
- You have to keep driving. - Yes.
I go to work around 4 or 5am.
- Wow. - At 4 or 5am?
When I try to take a nap in between,
she calls me every 30 minutes.
Can't you tell her you're going to nap?
I'd say, "I'm going to sleep, so let's talk later."
"Why? Who are you sleeping with?"
(Who are you with?)
"Are you sleeping with your brother? Are you alone?"
- She must be worried. - She calls me again in 10 minutes.
Does she obsess over anything else other than calling you?
My truck is a specific kind,
so I have to take it far...
- for any repairs to be made. - It's a special truck.
The place is two hours away from our house.
She came there with our kid.
She's really amazing.
She drove for two hours with her kid just to check?
When she came to the company dinner at 9pm,
is it true she nagged at you for being late?
When I go to company dinners, she starts asking me...
after an hour or two. She asks me why I'm not home yet.
What time does the dinner start?
We finish late. We often eat around 7pm.
- Two hours. - There is no...
- dinner that's shorter than that. - That's the time it starts.
- I was really surprised once. - There's more?
She knew what I talked about at the company dinner.
She asked me what we talked about.
How does she know?
I forgot to turn off my phone and just left it on the table.
She was listening to it.
Was she eavesdropping?
Yes. She recorded everything.
(She was recording it?)
First, we should hear both sides of the story.
She must have a reason.
Let's meet his wife to hear the story.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
She's 11 years younger than her husband.
Wow.
- She's really tall. - She looks tall.
Could you get up for a moment if you don't mind?
- She's tall. - Wow.
How tall are you?
- She's tall. - Wow.
- How tall are you? - 180cm.
- Wow. - Wow.
- 180cm? - She has long legs and she's tall.
Why do you keep calling your husband? You might affect his work.
Don't other people call like that?
- No. - Whoever sits there often say it.
- Other people don't do that. - Well...
- I just want to call him. - Yes.
I want to hear his voice.
We understand that, but you're obstructing his work.
He can work after the call.
I'm not talking to him for hours on end.
He can hang up after we're finished,
and make the call to his customers.
Do you get anxious if you don't check on him?
Just look at him. He's handsome.
We saw him!
- We all saw him. - We saw him.
I'm anxious because he's handsome.
I'm sorry, but where do you see Ahn Jung Hwan?
I can't find it.
His nose and his eyes.
I see a bit.
- You're right. - I see a bit.
- They look somewhat similar. - My husband...
- originally had curly hair. - I see.
- He straightened it. - I see it.
Are you anxious that he might see another woman,
or what exactly is it?
Since he's handsome...
You're probably not concerned when he's driving.
- Is it when he makes a stop? - Is that it?
All women stare at him.
- At a rest stop? - They'd go,
"My goodness, it's Ahn Jung Hwan!"
My goodness!
What are you talking about? He's Richard Gere.
Did you feel that way, too?
- No. - She says everyone stares at you.
I never felt that way.
I think she's over reacting.
Sometimes at work, female colleagues...
- could give you a drink, right? - Of course.
If they smile and give it to me,
she'll ask why they're smiling at me and nice to me.
Should they be crying then?
(Here, have this drink.)
Or should they be angry?
"Just drink it!"
(Just drink and get lost.)
- That's right. - "Just drink it, will you?"
One should always smile when giving something.
I don't like it.
Do you want other people to frown when they give it to him?
I don't want them to give him anything.
- Nothing at all. - She doesn't want attention.
How is he going to work like that?
Is 9pm late in your opinion?
You can meet during the day to eat, talk, and have a meeting.
Why do they have to drink at night?
They can end up going somewhere else by chance.
Have you ever gone somewhere else?
No.
I swear that I've never done that.
My husband received a call from a woman...
three times before our wedding.
- Three times before our wedding. - From a stranger?
- A stranger? - Is it a telemarketer?
- Was she selling something? - He said it's someone he knows.
I got nervous ever since then.
- There was a reason. - That's when it started.
- Who is it? - Who was she?
- I have... - You said you had been single.
I knew her by chance.
- What? - I never gave her my number.
I never gave it to her.
- She somehow got my number. - She called three times?
I told her not to call me since I'm getting married.
I think he's hiding something.
I don't have anything like that.
How did you meet? How do you know her?
I don't know. I don't know how we met.
Don't you know how you met?
Someone introduced me to her. It wasn't like we were on a blind date.
- You met her by chance. - Yes.
When we were planning our marriage, she called him.
I told him to make it stop, but the call came again.
- Did she call again? - Yes.
It was that incident...
- which led to my anxiety. - It's understandable.
- I have my reasons. - You could be understanding...
about your wife who is 11 years younger than you.
Wouldn't it be better to stay optimistic about her quirkiness?
I think it's past that point.
Whenever I meet up with my friends,
she tags along and stays until the end.
She constantly sends me signs that she wants to go home.
Then my friends go, "You should go home."
- "You should go ahead and go home." - That's right.
After 2 or 3 times of that,
my friends don't pick up the phone when I call them.
Do all of your friends refuse to see you?
I have one friend left in Seoul.
I had to go to his family member's funeral,
but my wife insisted on tagging along.
- To the funeral? - He is a good friend of mine...
- and I wanted to console him. - Men tend to stay until late.
By 11pm, she was making it clear that she wants to go home.
My friend told me that my wife and I should go.
Good friends console each other until the morning at funerals.
It's enough that he paid his condolences.
- No, it's not. - It really is not.
Good friends stay together until the morning at funerals...
- and go to the cemetery. - Men are like that.
That's right. Did your friends visit the show?
One of my friends said, "You never called me before."
"It seems like you only call me when you need help."
I realised that...
I don't have many friends left.
Doesn't it make you feel bad to see your husband without a friend?
He has a wife and a child.
Do you think friends are unnecessary in that case?
Yes.
Before marriage,
didn't you have friends you met up with?
She still meets up with people as she pleases.
- Really? - Yes.
- Does she meet her friends? - She implied that she doesn't.
I always make my husband come with me.
It must be hard on him.
- It's another worry. - It really is.
It's another worry.
He has to see his wife's friends when he can't see his own friends.
- It must be tough. - It's nice that she loves me,
but her actions interfere with my work, too.
How do they interfere with your work?
I drive trucks for a living, and she follows me to work...
even when it's winter.
She packs powdered milk and diapers for our child...
- She sits with you in the truck. - Yes.
I have to focus on driving, but the child needs to go to the toilet.
She wants to feed him at meal times. My work keeps getting delayed.
How often does she tag along to work?
When we were newly weds, she did that every day.
Did she ride in the truck with you?
Yes. Sometimes, I work from 9am to 8 or 9pm.
- So it lasts an entire day. - It lasts an entire day.
- For 12 hours? - She does it 3 times a week now.
She still does it.
Isn't it hard on the child?
It's bad for children to stay in the car for so long.
- It's a problem. - That child has a work schedule.
- He just doesn't get paid. - Isn't it hard for you?
- He looks tired. - It is hard.
- She scolds him for refusing to go.
Take this opportunity to say a few words to your mum.
Tell her if you like tagging along to dad's workplace.
I don't like it.
You heard him.
Would you go alone if your son refuses to go?
Yes.
- Will you leave the child alone? - Yes.
You will make your parents-in-law babysit him.
- Yes. - What happens when you fight?
Even after a fight, she spends the entire day by my side.
- Wow. - Even after a fight?
(She follows him even after a fight.)
- She sits there without a word. - She does that after a fight.
I have to keep my eyes both on the road and my wife.
This is like getting into a quarrel...
on the street with a stranger...
only to follow him in the same direction.
Imagine how uncomfortable that must be.
I like being by his side. I want to stay with him even if we fight.
She wants to stay by his side.
Since we live with his parents,
- I get more stressed out at home. - I see.
- You live with your parents-in-law. - Yes.
As a woman, I didn't understand it...
when she said her husband is too handsome to be left alone.
(I didn't understand it.)
Was it really necessary to say that?
However, it makes sense that she would rather follow her husband...
than stay in the house with her parents-in-law.
- All daughters-in-law would agree. - It's understandable.
What do you think about it?
I was understanding at first,
- but time has passed. - You think she should get over it.
I want her to focus on housework now.
He is a good man.
He sent us a worry because he was under a lot of stress.
How do you relieve your stress?
- I was in a jokgu club. - I see.
She followed me to the field.
It would have been lovely if she smiled and cheered,
but she kept making a face. It was distracting.
Club members told me that I should stop coming.
Two years into the marriage, I stopped going to club meetings.
They asked you to stop coming.
How do you relieve your stress?
- You can't play jokgu. - Now,
- there is no escape. - He can't relieve his stress.
There's no way to relieve his stress.
There are no women in a jokgu club.
It would have been fine if he focused solely on sports.
However, he goes for a drink after club meetings.
If that happens,
he will meet women.
- Why do you think that? - He is handsome.
I can't help but be worried.
- Wait. - You shouldn't be so handsome.
- He is cool. - Among the guests,
who has the looks that would put you at ease?
That's a good question. Is it Sang Min or Dong Yeob?
Frankly, Yeong Ja is really pretty.
I am a bit anxious now.
- She has a problem. - You need help.
Let me take her to the hospital.
It makes me feel good though.
(You have a good taste.)
Please answer my question.
Which guest has looks that would put you at ease?
- Is it Dong Ha? - There are Dong Ha, Dae Hyun,
- Sang Min and me. - Pick one.
Why are you so hung up on this question?
Tae Gyun.
- What? - Tae Gyun.
I am free!
What a relief!
Let me tell you this.
She judged correctly...
because Tae Gyun's wife never calls.
- She never asks where he is. - That's why I go home.
- He is the first one to go home. - That's right.
None of the three married MCs get a call. You call 30 times a day.
If my wife does that, I wouldn't be able to live with her.
Don't you hate it when your wife is uncaring?
- Isn't it better to be caring? - No.
I love my life as it is.
Calling that many times isn't the only way...
I care because I love him.
Calling many times isn't a sign of care.
If a woman meets your husband and shows interest,
do you think your husband will reciprocate?
Well... I am too tall...
and I gained a lot of weight after giving birth.
- It ruined your confidence. - I am no longer confident.
On top of that, my husband is handsome.
Would you please stop saying that?
That's why I am worried.
- Some of you are laughing loudly. - There are a lot of pretty women.
I am afraid that he will leave me if he meets a pretty woman.
That's why I keep restricting him.
Have you tried losing weight?
I tried, but I always give up.
I just love being with my husband.
When he is away, I want to call and check in with him.
You must rarely get time for yourself.
I rarely get time for myself. Recently,
- Workers' Day was on Sunday. - That's right.
My colleagues and I decided to...
have an athletic meet.
When I messaged my wife about it,
she replied, "Have fun while we are holed up in the house."
- My goodness. - I couldn't help...
- but take them. - You took them to the meet.
It's natural to have dinner after an athletic meet.
However, my wife began to nudge me to go home.
After some thoughts,
I realised that I will end up a loner at my workplace, too.
I think this is a big worry.
Let me ask you a sensitive question.
Do you prefer a wife...
who is trusting, anxiety free and caring?
Do you prefer a wife who loves you so much...
that she has to check in with you 24 hours a day?
My wife might be offended if I answer honestly,
but I want a wife who respects my wishes...
and gives me trust and freedom.
I am flustered. I don't know why he would say such thing.
It's out of love that I stay by his side and restrict his movements.
What would you say if he asks you to give him freedom out of love?
Both can be results of love.
Staying with the family is...
He stays with the family all the time.
It needs to be done in moderation.
You are treating your husband like a future criminal.
You think he will commit adultery if you don't watch his every move.
- That's right. - No, I do what I do out of love.
- This worry is frustrating, too. - The two worries are similar.
- Let's hear from him. - Let's hear from the king.
- Give him the microphone. - He is the king.
- Microphone! - What do you think?
I asked my wife to come along when I drove a truck.
- The situation is reversed. - Yes.
Even if my wife refused, I said, "Hurry up and come."
- What is going on? - This is absurd.
- What is going on? - They need to switch places.
They need to switch places.
Would you be okay if your wife follows you around?
I wouldn't want her to come when I am meeting my friends.
However, I would love it if she rides the truck with me.
He wants to work her like a maid.
That's right. That's exactly what he wants.
- He will ask her to change gears. - He will ask her to drive.
"I asked you to change it to the third gear!"
He doesn't care about his wife when he's having team dinners.
- I know. - Ki Young's wife seems to think...
it is natural to be controlling...
- as a wife who loves her husband. - She does it out of love.
Is there a reason why you began to think that way?
- There must be a reason. - Actually,
my parents got divorced when I was three years old.
I always craved for security...
in the name of the family.
My husband didn't push me away even when I followed him around,
so I began to think...
this must be what love between a married couple looks like.
I understand how you began to think that way,
but anything done in excess can cause a strain.
My wife may look healthy,
but she got a surgery for uterine cancer three years ago.
Two years ago, she got a surgery for thyroid cancer.
- She needs to rest. - She has been receiving...
treatments for over a year.
- Really? - She needs to rest.
I am worried about her health.
- You got two major surgeries. - You are getting treatments.
If you don't take care of your health,
your love will be lost.
Getting big surgeries gave me diabetes...
and pyelonephritis.
I got high fevers and backaches. I couldn't even eat well.
I was very sick and should've been hospitalised.
Instead of spending a week in the hospital,
I ate medicines for a month to stay with my husband.
It happened twice.
That's why he must be worried. However, I won't be deterred.
- You will continue to follow him. - Yes.
It seems like her past experience with the lack of love...
makes her crave for her husband's attention.
Their relationship will improve and she will let go a little...
if her husband showers her with love.
I think I will look back on my actions...
if my husband expresses his love.
- He doesn't express his love. - I see.
When I ask, "Do you love me?"
He goes, "Sure."
When I ask him for a kiss,
- he just sticks out his cheek. - He's not very affectionate.
When I ask him if he loves me, I want him to say, "Yes, I do."
When I ask him for a kiss, I want him to kiss me on the lips.
When I asked him, "Why did you marry me?"
He said, "I married you because you agreed to live with my mother."
That's what he said.
- My goodness. - You shouldn't have said that.
He made a mistake.
You should be more expressive.
I love her a lot, but it's hard to show it.
You need to be expressive.
She should declare on TV that he is her man.
Please come on down.
(They will show their affection.)
Please stand up.
- It will only be awkward at first. - Please come this way.
- I know how it feels. - She is tall.
(He wants to look taller.)
Be at ease.
(Jumping)
All right.
You are not doing this to make her stop following you.
- You married her out of love. - Yes.
You should express the love inside you.
You are the shortest. Stand on another cushion.
Please talk to your wife.
(I'll just sit down.)
- Good job. - Please talk to her.
(He will express his sincerity.)
- Ki Young, take the lead. - Honey.
- Look her in the eye. - To me...
- Look her in the eye. - Look at her face.
To me, you are the most beautiful and lovely woman.
Please believe in me.
Since you are sick, you should take care of your health.
Show her your love. You don't need a speech.
- Give her a kiss. - I love you so much.
(I love you so much.)
Kiss.
(You are my everything.)
(Please believe in me.)
Say a few words to the friends who grew apart.
My friends of many years,
my heart stays the same.
I have mistreated you to make my wife happy.
I hope we can meet and drink soju.
I miss you, my friends.
(I miss you, my friends.)
Let's start with Dong Ha.
- Is it a worry or not? - I don't think it's a worry.
If Ki Young continues to show his affection,
she will overcome the past trauma...
and their relationship will improve.
That's why I don't think it's a worry.
It's a worry.
Ki Young should stay vigilant and fix the problem.
It's a worry without a doubt.
I can't help but think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- All right. - Time's up.
Please say a few words to your husband.
Thank you for giving me the love I lacked in my childhood.
Seeing you live to the fullest...
reminds me that you are the best husband...
and the head of the family.
Let's live happily for many years to come.
You should grant your husband a wish.
Allow him to play jokgu or go to team dinners.
We can go to jokgu meetings together.
- My goodness. - Come on.
Grant him a wish.
You will make your husband ill.
- He has a breaking point. - You should change, too.
You will make him ill.
- I will try to get better. - He needs to rest a day in a week.
- I will try to get better. - Please do that.
You can do it.
I represent every woman in Korea when I say this.
I won't attempt anything with your husband.
(I won't attempt anything with your husband.)
Show us the result.
(The result)
It is over 100.
Will it be 155?
It's 155.
(Eliminated and survived)
This is a worry from a daughter-in-law in her 20s.
Hello, I am a mother of two who has been married for six years.
My father-in-law is like a bomb...
that is ready to go off at any moment.
This is what happens when he watches the news.
- "What an absolute jerk!" - Bleep.
- "That little punk!" - Bleep.
- "Those little..."
(He uses a lot of swear words.)
I tried to bleep it out.
This is what happens when he drives.
"Look at those jerks!"
"Why are they using their phones?"
"Pieces of garbage!"
My goodness.
He fought with other drivers in the middle of the highway.
I was so scared.
I asked my husband,
"What is wrong with father-in-law?"
"What you saw is the tip of the iceberg."
"When I was young, he flipped the dinner table many times."
"There is no way he did that."
It's unbelievable.
I soon witnessed it with my own eyes.
The family was eating grilled meat...
when the dinner table flew across the air.
Do you know...
what flew to my face? Raw meat.
(Raw meat flew to her face.)
I can't forget the moment...
raw meat flew to my face.
I will sacrifice myself for the well being of the family...
and reveal everything on Hello.
Father-in-law, please calm down.
(Father-in-law, please calm down.)
Most people don't act rashly in front of their daughters-in-law.
- They behave. - I thought flipping the table...
- was a relic of the past. - That's right.
Let's meet the woman who sent in her worry.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her egocentric father-in-law?)
(Kim Jung Sun)
Welcome.
You must be pretty desperate to send a worry.
Would you be okay with talking about your father-in-law?
My father-in-law is extremely self willed.
He is quick to anger.
I decided to visit the show because I have had enough.
Everything that comes out of his mouth...
begins and ends with a swear word.
When I first met him before the marriage,
- father-in-law swore a lot. - At the first meeting?
- Yes. - He swore at the first meeting?
Yes, he swore.
I thought the family was very open.
- You stayed optimistic. - Yes.
In the apartment complex,
- there are speed bumps. - That's right.
The bumper of his car...
got scratched on the speed bump. He asked the security...
to call over the president of the apartment community.
When that didn't happen,
he blocked the entrance of the apartment...
so that other cars wouldn't be able to pass.
Then he honked the car and screamed,
"Come on out, president of the apartment community!"
Why does he want the president?
What does she have to do with the accident?
He said that it was the president's approval...
that led to the installation of the speed bump.
What he did...
- is not a common sense approach. - No, it's not.
My goodness.
(That's why I am here.)
Doesn't he treat you nicely since you are his daughter-in-law?
Men love their daughters-in-law.
- Isn't that right? - However,
he directs his swear words at me, too.
He is too unconventional.
When his friends come over, he speaks ill of me...
- in front of me. - What?
"I used to like her..."
"because she was cute and affectionate."
"However, she became big headed since she earned money."
- Gosh. - What is wrong with a big head?
"She has changed so much."
Then he uses swear words.
- Does he use swear words? - Yes. When he does that,
I can't help but think that he doesn't like me.
It sounds like he is a scary and ill tempered man.
Did he agree to visit the show?
- What did you tell him? - I told my father-in-law...
that my worry got chosen for Hello.
I asked him if he would be willing to visit the show.
He said, "Sure, I will go!"
"Let's see which one of us wins."
- We have to host fights now. - Does he fight?
(The father-in-law versus daughter-in-law, who will win?)
(He has the aura of a stubborn man.)
Let's meet the father-in-law and see if we have the same idea.
- I'm scared. - Palms up to show respect.
Who do you think he is?
- Let's ask him. - Hello.
Hello, Sir.
- Use the microphone, please. - Hold the microphone.
(He emits an aura of discontent.)
(He's here ready to fight.)
She came here with a concern.
- Do you understand why? - I don't.
If this is a concern,
eating and defecating are concerns, too.
(He didn't let us down.)
Sir, you heard me read what your daughter-in-law wrote.
I read the story and she told us her worry.
Is that all true?
- It's quite close to the truth. - I see.
My replies were a bit exaggerated.
- She mentioned the speed bump. - Yes.
I told them not to put it there.
Why do we need a speed bump in a 6 to 7m road?
If she wants one that bad, she can build it in her home.
- In her home? - Did you say you didn't want it?
(He's being sarcastic.)
Before it was built?
How fast can someone drive inside the apartment blocks?
That way of thinking causes accidents.
Small children play in the...
Will it prevent accidents?
From the entrance to the car park or the flat,
- people rarely slow down... - There's only one block.
(He's not getting through.)
You can't refute that.
He said he was against building a speed bump.
He said that before...
so let's say that he had reason to shout and complain.
Why did you say bad things about her in front of your friends?
Isn't that a bit...
I didn't badmouth her.
She dragged me out here.
- My goodness. - Her temper...
- He scared me. - She's just as bad.
(Will we be able to air this?)
- Were you startled? - Being here...
She's just the same. She's just like me.
When she dated my son, I wanted them to get married.
Why?
She was pretty, kind and friendly.
But now she doesn't call me, or bring her kids around.
She works and now looks down on men.
(She looks down on men.)
I think he's upset.
If what he said is right, that means you've changed.
I visit him once a week.
- No one does that nowadays. - Because...
we meet every week,
I don't feel the need to call often, which is why I rarely call.
Since his temper gets worse, and he swears more...
- You visit less. - Yes.
I don't feel comfortable talking to him.
The good feelings slowly ebbed away.
To get to know him better, we invited one of his colleagues.
Is it the man next to him?
- Hello. - Hello.
- Tell us what he's like. - What is he like at work?
He's outgoing and is a nice guy.
(Is he nice at work?)
He's not bad or rude. He's a nice guy.
That's why we're friends.
But all that swearing could be a worry.
Do you understand why his daughter-in-law struggles?
I think it's a worry.
When he talks...
(What is it?)
Please go on.
- Don't glare at him. - That was scary.
He always starts with a swear word.
- Always? - He's rough.
The F word is constant.
I don't get this.
He likes to have his friends over for a drink,
so we end up at his place at least once a week.
Once his wife took a bit longer to cook us something,
he started cursing.
He was asking if she had dozed off.
- To his wife? - Yes.
He's also loud and we felt uncomfortable.
I see why.
We have another king.
Is this "Kings Special"?
Your mother-in-law lived with him for many years.
- It must be a worry for her. - Even more so for her.
Oh, dear... I can't even...
Words won't suffice.
Everyone in the neighbourhood knows him as the man who curses.
I feel so ashamed.
Even at work, he gets into fights with his superiors,
and quits right away. In his 30 years career,
he never got his severance pay.
(He has no severance pay.)
It's a struggle.
Did he curse when you dated?
Of course not.
- Did he start after marriage? - Yes.
(Marriage changes men.)
He deceived her.
You changed, too.
There must be a lot of things you wanted to say.
Cash in on this opportunity.
Oh, of course I will...
- since we're here. - This is your chance.
- He promised. - Yes.
One time we went travelling with my sister.
I told him which way to go,
but I'd gotten the directions wrong.
- Did you say left instead of right? - Yes.
He said, "You don't even know the way."
(You don't know the way.)
(She was insulted in front of the family.)
He mocked me for acting like I was a know it all.
- In front of your own sister? - Yes.
What did she say?
Nothing. She knows what he's like.
She knows what he's like.
Did you ever leave home out of fury?
- I did. - When?
I guess he had a bad day at work.
I cooked him dinner, but he flipped the table.
He screamed at me to get out of the house,
so I did along with my kid.
My mother died when I was only two,
and I didn't want my kids to be without a mother.
- So I came back home. - You kept it in.
I don't curse if she obeys after I say something once or twice.
I curse because she keeps doing something...
after I tell her multiple times not to.
Why do you keep doing something he tells you not to do?
He never says anything twice.
There are times when I don't get what he means the first time.
That's when the cursing and shouting starts.
We have a witness.
As his colleague,
do you think he curses right away, or does he hold back first?
I wasn't listening, so I can't say.
- He wasn't listening. - He got out.
That was a very wise answer.
(I'll stay out of their business.)
Why do you think your husband curses terribly and so often?
I think it runs in the family.
His father is 92 years old,
and he still has a temper.
- They used to be miners. - Who? Your father-in-law?
- Both of them. - They were miners.
I wonder if they started cursing because of the hard work.
(Like father, like son)
Does your husband smile?
- Not often. - His mouth...
I look the same.
When do you feel like smiling?
When I see my granddaughter.
When he sees his granddaughter.
- I saw your lips move. - Right.
What's her name?
Soo Min, do something cute for your grandpa.
For your grandpa.
(This is me being cute.)
You said she makes you smile.
- Was that a smile? - Yes.
Was that it?
- Was that a smile? - Was that it?
- Is that young man her dad? - Yes.
Do you feel uncomfortable? You seem a bit afraid.
- Be honest. - You're his son.
I feel very uncomfortable.
I completely understand why my wife has an issue.
My father forces his ideas or demands on us all the time.
One day, we were watching TV together.
It was a show about the army.
He cursed and said that the army these days...
is nothing compared to his day.
- He would know. - My father...
didn't enlist.
(He did his alternative military service.)
I didn't understand why he was complaining.
You still say everything you want.
Do you curse like your father?
In my memory,
he cursed ever since I was six years old.
I have trauma about curse words.
- You do the opposite. - Yes. So I...
- Never? - I never curse.
During my whole life whenever I made a decision,
my father never supported it.
- Never? - Yes.
He always says, "You won't make it."
- Did he say that? - That was it.
That became a huge problem.
At first, we worked together as electrical engineers.
When I told him I wanted to quit,
and try my hand at selling insurance policies, he said,
"Your head is full of poop."
(All he got was more verbal abuse.)
"Do your best."
- That's what we want to hear. - Right.
Especially from your father.
Sir. Why were you always against your son's dreams?
He said I didn't support him when he started out.
I talked to people I know and got them to buy his policies.
- You just don't say so. - Exactly.
I tell him what to do, but he never listens.
But you can't say what you think is best for him...
will always be the right way.
There are jobs that are better suited for him.
He goes the wrong way.
- How? - He shouldn't.
I tell him what to do, but he doesn't listen.
If he'd made the right choice and had done well,
he wouldn't be selling insurance.
(Don't force your ideas on us.)
(This is upsetting.)
When was the time...
you saw your father-in-law at his worst?
We had gotten together for a family dinner.
My husband's younger brother was considering to study something...
that didn't seem to have a very good future.
So we suggested to forget about college...
and find a job then settle down.
Everyone in the family seemed to agree with that.
Suddenly my father-in-law said, "When did I agree to that?"
"I told him to go to college."
I said, "But I heard you."
"You said he should get a job."
He screamed, "I did not!"
Then he flipped the table.
That's when he threw the meat.
- To whom? - In my direction.
It flew by my head.
- Did you... - I didn't throw it.
- Pardon? - I didn't throw it.
Then what happened?
I said I'd take out a loan to support him...
through college if he wanted, but he changed his mind.
But now everyone...
My sons, daughter-in-law, even my wife...
are making me look bad.
It made me really angry.
I flipped the table and the meat flew.
It's mortifying.
Did you regret and feel bad after?
No. I was still angry.
- Pardon? - Were you still upset?
- He's just the same. - Did she stop visiting afterwards?
I told her not to visit and she didn't come for a month.
I missed my grand kids.
I don't need to see my son or daughter-in-law.
(I don't need to see them.)
(The rift is wider than we thought.)
- He only says that. - Why didn't you...
try to make amends first? He's your senior.
- She's tough, too. - If she'd called,
I wouldn't be upset.
After I had my first baby,
he sent me seaweed, ox bone and even pumpkin juice.
He was very good to me. That's why...
I wanted and tried to be a good daughter-in-law.
But then he flipped the table and told me not to visit.
I thought, "Fine. I won't."
- I thought... - That's understandable.
I think you're a very nice person.
It's just that the way you speak is very rough.
So instead of trying to understand you,
they can't stand being around you.
It's not about what I think or am like inside.
They just infuriate me.
My wife infuriates me. I tell her what not to do, but...
Did your husband ever say something nice to you?
We were married for over 30 years,
- but he never called me "honey". - Never?
- What did he call you? - "Hey."
"Hyun Chul's mum. Come here."
He never told me that he loves me.
You don't say it. You show it.
Do you love her?
I hold her at night. That's love.
- This is insane. - This is despair.
We've hosted Hello for a while now,
and we've had some patriarchal people on the show.
One thing they have in common is it's not how they feel,
- it's how they show it. - They come across as being rough.
- That's always the case. - It's common.
I'm not patriarchal.
(I'm not patriarchal.)
- My wife... - You're like the other dad.
I clean if my wife tells me to.
I make the bed.
- Good for you. - I even cook for the family.
- I go on family outings with them. - What's your shortcoming?
- It's how I speak when I'm angry. - It's his cursing.
You lose your points there.
Do you just make the bed when you're told to,
or do you curse as you make it?
- Is that it? - No.
I even open the window and shake off the dust in blankets.
This is what I was told.
Doing three things someone asked me to do...
means less than not doing one thing they asked me not to do.
You don't have to do anything else. If you just stop swearing,
- that would make them happy. - It would.
- Let's practise, then. - Right now.
Say something nice.
Is that what you want to hear?
- A warm comment? - Yes.
- "You can do it." - Yes.
- What else... - Do your best.
Sir, come on.
(He's stubborn like a mule.)
You're childish.
We'll have the daughter-in-law go first.
- He's... - He's a nice guy.
- You know he had a hard life. - Yes.
Dad, I do like you,
respect you and rely on you a lot.
I wish you wouldn't curse...
when the children are around.
Please don't say bad things about your wife in front of them.
You're the perfect man if you just didn't do that.
I can be strong minded and stubborn,
so I find it hard to go up to you and apologise first.
That's on me and I'm sorry for that.
- Do you love him? - Of course I do.
- Then... - I love you.
Sir.
(Roger that.)
Sir, it's your turn to say something nice to her.
Be honest.
Clouds can't move without wind,
and life is nothing without love.
Don't just talk about being loved and try to love me, too.
(You should try to love me, too.)
We'll start voting with Dong Ha.
- I think it's a worry. - Yes.
This time I'll say it's not a worry.
That's because this isn't solely about the father.
It's a family issue that needs solving,
and I think they are wise enough to sort it out.
- Dae Hyun? - I don't think it's a worry.
Fortunately, I think the crisis was prevented.
If this were a real worry, the father-in-law wouldn't be here,
and no one would've been able to say they had this concern.
- I get what you mean. - It's not a worry.
If you think this is a worry, please press your buttons.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Thank you. - Stop voting.
Stop.
Let's see how many votes we got.
Will he complain if it's a big number?
- Let's see the last number. - He'll complain to us.
It's... 92 votes.
92 votes.
"Let's Break Up" wins for the fourth time.
We will give the winner a 1,000 dollars gift certificate.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry free...
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Bye. - Thank you.
("All in" by Monsta X)